Seeing to your baby's needs

So your wife has asked to dress your new baby. Of course this would seem an easy task. Your baby is a few months old and you have been left with responsibility of performing this activity. It should take no more than a couple of minutes and then you can back to watching your favorite program, and of course its the football, so you dont want to miss all that much of it.

Of courrse you darent try and do both, as that will attract the wrath of your wife, so you make sure that you are totally concentrating on the matter at hand and that is to dress your baby.

So in most cases the vest, trousers, or zip up shouldnt be too much of a problem. This is accomplished quickly, you are feeling very good. Both arms are thru the sleeves and nothing is twisted. So now all that remains are the socks and shoes.

So you put on both socks, how little they are, they hardly cover the foot. Then you reach for the little shoes, and when you turn around the socks are off, and your baby has thrown them away just out of reach. So, with a smile you start again, both socks on and your reach for the shoes. Again the socks are removed and throw away, what a neat game has suddenly been created.

...and then you discover, that everything has an order, and in this simple process, the order is not sock, sock, shoe, shoe, its sock shoe, sock, shoe. So holding the shoes very close you put the sock on and then the shoe. Remarkably the sock stays on, because your little one cannot undo the shoe. (well not yet). Now its much easier to put the other sock and shoe on, and you can get back to your football game.

I wrote a book about all my experiences both major and minor, and called it 'My First Year as a Dad'. Its aim is to help other new Dads. You can find it at http://www.1stbaby.info Enjoy!

Not Much Help for the New Dad

When I discovered I was to be a Dad for the first time, I looked around for someone or something to help me. Surely there must be millions of people in the same position as me. But I couldnt find what I was looking for, something (or someone), that could guide me, help me understand what was about to be unleashed onto my well-ordered life, and give me a chance to prepare for this event.

Also I wanted to know, just what was going to happen during the early part of the baby's life, what was my role, what was I supposed to do. There were no books, no magazines, little information about what I would have to do. All the information available was directed to the New Mom.

So once I had made it thru that first year, the many struggles and challenges of those first 12 months, I decided to write a book about my experiences. I called the book 'MY FIRST YEAR AS A DAD'. I wrote specifically with the aim to give information to other new Dads.

You can find the book at : http://www.1stbaby.info

I hope you enjoy it.

A new Baby and your world turns upside down

There you are travelling along this life of yours, going out, meeting and mixing with your friends, going to the football games, the Basketball, the Baseball. Not much of a care in the world, money in your pocket. You have a lovely partner, you have your times together, dinners, movies, outings. The world surely is a great place to be in.

'We are going to have a baby'. Those words will totally change your life and the way you act, react and also how the seemingly simple things in life, take on a whole new meaning.

Suddenly, the conversations now include a third person, as yet unborn, but no less important, and in many ways even more important.

A room has to be made ready, (that is if you have a spare room). Clothes have to be bought, now pink or blue (does it matter?), of course it does. Your wife wouldnt think of dressing your new baby girl in blue, perish the thought.

New activities to learn, new ways of handling situations. One really good tip, BEFORE the baby is born, practice folding and unfolding the push chair with one hand. Make sure you can do it with both your left and right hands.

I had an eventful and interesting first year as a new Dad, so much so that I wrote down my struggles and victories in a book. 'My First Year as a Dad', is an attempt to help other new Dads, understand what will happen when their first baby arrives.

You can download and read it at :

http://www.1stbaby.info I hope you gain an insight of what it will take to be a new Dad for the first time.

Having a First Baby, but then...

Ventricular Septal Defect, or VSD is the medical term for a hole in the heart. Our baby was born with one of these. The main problem with something thats wrong internally is that there is nothing to show anyone, or tell them why you keep having to go to the specialist and why you need to keep having ultra sounds on your new baby.

There is nothing visual, so while all other new Moms and Dads are enjoyng their babies and telling you what is the latest they have experience, (a smile, a giggle, some recognition), you know in yourself that you have a huge problem to overcome first before you can really enjoy any of these.

I wrote about our experiences with this in my book 'My First Year as a Dad'. Standing outside the Operating Theatre with my Baby in my arms, waiting to hand her over to the Surgeon, was probably the toughest thing I have ever had to do. Anyways its all at : http://www.1stbaby.info

Having a First Baby

It's amazing the feelings you go thru as a new Dad, when you're wife tells you that she is pregnant. Fear, anxiety, concern, happiness. They're all there, plus a whole heap more that are a variation of them. To be sure your life will never be the same again.

Suddenly there is a change, subtle at first, but ever growing, in the things you will be asked to do, and most of them will be new and strange.

Its a learning time, a time of working out how much you will give in this new order of things, and how much you need to educate yourself, so that you can cope with the new environment.

However, no matter how much you learn, or think you know, your wife will always know more, will always be ahead of you and will always have a better way of doing things.

So the first thing to do, on the day you are told that a baby is on the way, is to remove your ego and store it away, because you wont be needing it, and it will only get in the way.

Welcome everyone

Well the longest Journey begins with the first step. I've made many first steps and I'm sure you have too. Each step takes us on a journey, where we dont necessarily know the destination, and thats ok, because never reaching your final goal or destination is how it should be because really its the journey that beings us the success. Its the little milestones that we reach along the way, that tell us that we are doing it right, or going the correct way. Every time we reach the top of the mountain, and smile and congratulate ourselves that we made it, only causes us to look up and to realise that we have other mountains to above us to climb.

It doesnt matter how you get up the mountain, because the view from the top of each one is the same.

Remember Set your goals in concrete, but cast your plans in sand.

I was a Dad, a new Dad a few years ago. It was a time of total change. At the end of the first year, I had achieved so much, in what I had learnt about myself, and what I could do, that far outweighed what I thought I could do.

So Guess what, I wrote a book, called 'My First Year as a Dad'. Its about the highs, the lows, the good times and the not-so-good times. Its about the challenges and the things I had to do no matter how much I hated them. Its really for every new Mom, every new Dad and every new Parent to be.

The book can be found at http://www.1stbaby.info Its a good read. Enjoy.